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A blog from the series : Musings of the Lotus Born<\/em><\/p>\n

I remember the cringe. As a young girl, I would sit at my grandmother\u2019s feet and recoil at her hands. To my eyes, they were “unsightly” – a landscape of bony ridges and shriveled, darkened valleys. In the arrogant immortality of youth, I assumed I would stay smooth and untouched forever. I didn’t yet understand that those hands were the very architecture of my safety, cajoling me out of tears and cooking the meals that grew my bones.<\/p>\n

I saw that same tireless toil in my mother, who had me late in life and knew only the language of slogging. Beside her stood my five older sisters, a phalanx of strength upon which my spirit was built. Today, as I sit with my morning tea, I no longer see “shrivel” in my own palm. I see a weathered being. I see a half-century of stories floating by in sensory ripples.<\/p>\n

The Archive of the Backyard<\/h3>\n

The memories are etched into the creases of my grip. My palms remember the rough bark of the guava tree and the tactile grace of plucking jasmine for the pooja room before the petals were woven into my thick, oiled braids. There was a manual pulse to our home; these hands gathered idli batter around the grinding stone for hours, a labor shared with my sisters.<\/p>\n

These same palms swept empires of dust and scrubbed linen against the washing stone. I can still hear the rhythmic thwack of wet cloth – a sound that usually followed the sight of my mother\u2019s tiger cane, which unfailingly jolted me out of my childhood laziness and into frantic action.<\/p>\n

The Fire of the Playground<\/h3>\n

In school, my hands were instruments of joyful abandon. They gripped the shot put and the discus, feeling the cold weight of the metal before the release. They held badminton rackets and hockey sticks with a fierce, competitive hunger. I remember the feverish speed of my pen, finishing homework at a blur just so I wouldn’t lose a single minute on the playground. But there was a shadow to that fire. I remember the throwball court – the intensity of the game and the bully that lived in my palm. When a teammate faltered, I didn’t offer a hand; I delivered a sharp slap to those who didn’t play well. We lost points for it, but in that moment, my palm was a vent for a frustration I didn’t yet know how to name. Those same hands would, minutes later, be buried in shared tiffins during recess, the sting of the game forgotten in the taste of friendship.<\/p>\n

Strings and Steel<\/h3>\n

At eighteen, a personal setback pivoted my life toward the Fine Arts. My hands were retrained in the language of beauty. I can still feel the “bite” of the brass strings of the Saraswati Veena against my fingertips, the wax-set frets teaching me to coax a soulful gamaka from the wood. Yet, I still craved the thrill of the physical. I remember the vibration of the Yamaha RX100 handles. My hands held the power of that engine, the chrome and steel a sharp, rebellious contrast to the meditative plucking of the Tanpura.<\/p>\n

The Weight of Motherhood and Shadow<\/h3>\n

At twenty-one, I eloped with rose-colored glasses. Far from home, my hands became the tools of a “people-pleaser,” slogging for appreciation. Then came the seismic shift of motherhood – the awe of crafting human beings from my own flesh and blood. My hands became a symphony of touch: bathing slippery infants, cleaning scraped knees and stroking foreheads to chase away nightmares.<\/p>\n

But the light eventually gave way to a harrowing darkness. For a decade, I used these hands to hurt myself and, in my pain, I hurt my children too. I deprived my soul of respect. My palms grew heavy – too tired to cook, to play, or even to lift in prayer.<\/p>\n

The Healing Palm<\/h3>\n

But a palm is a resilient thing. It can be clenched into a fist, but it can also be opened in surrender. After that decade of shadow, the journey of self-healing began. Today, my lines are a Living Archive. I see my grandmother\u2019s strength, my mother\u2019s lifelong toil, and the grace of my five sisters. The reverence I feel for them now knows no bounds.<\/p>\n

My hands are no longer “unsightly.” They are the hands of a climber, a musician, a rider, a mother, and – most importantly – a healer. They have been through the fire and the frost, and they have
\ncome out on the other side, still capable of holding a warm cup of tea and a brand-new story.<\/p>\n

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Padmajaa\u2019s wisdom is born from lived experience. Following a life-altering health challenge in 1998, she turned inward, uncovering the profound connection between mind, body and spirit. That journey became the catalyst for her life\u2019s work: guiding others to move beyond survival and truly thrive. Bridging the worlds of high-impact corporate leadership and holistic well-being, Padmajaa works with a diverse spectrum of individuals – from CEOs in boardrooms to children in community centers. She champions the art of conscious living, empowering people to navigate life with compassion, take radical responsibility for their joy, and design meaningful futures.<\/em>